tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post6029636993643395557..comments2023-09-23T21:10:38.319+05:30Comments on The Life and Times of an Indian Home Maker: Can an Indian daughter say, “Mere paas maa hai!”?Indian Home Makerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comBlogger59125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-21869328608962083552009-03-27T08:32:00.000+05:302009-03-27T08:32:00.000+05:30i dont know u so i ddnt comment on many of ur post...i dont know u so i ddnt comment on many of ur post which i read today.<BR/><BR/>but on this one.<BR/>i will definitely congratulate u for ur girl child.Voicehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02691985661099575595noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-89190865208135642422009-03-05T22:14:00.000+05:302009-03-05T22:14:00.000+05:30@Anonymous Thank You, we are all affected, let's a...@Anonymous Thank You, we are all affected, let's all speak up in whichever ways we can. Your leaving this comment makes it worthwhile for me, thanks for this encouragement.Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-49611760182565699622009-03-05T21:37:00.000+05:302009-03-05T21:37:00.000+05:30@Aditya That is so sweet .. your last line, "Baba'...@Aditya That is so sweet .. your last line, "Baba's always taking their side... probably because others wouldnt."<BR/>We need such people!Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-18763278434033387732009-03-05T21:35:00.000+05:302009-03-05T21:35:00.000+05:30@naperville mom True, in some way we are moving ah...@<B>naperville mom</B> True, in some way we are moving ahead, but in some ways we seem to keep going back in time. Isn't this so sad:(<BR/><BR/>@<B>Leslie</B> I can understand how you must have felt! It is so difficult for a lot of Indians to even believe that we can be happy to have daughters! Shows how deep the conditioning is!Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-88843712630816980572009-03-05T21:04:00.000+05:302009-03-05T21:04:00.000+05:30@Goofy Mama I should have replied ages ago!!! I am...@Goofy Mama I should have replied ages ago!!! I am really sorry, but let me say I am so glad that there is one more person who HAS seen that episode, wasn't it brilliant, if I could only find a video from somewhere!Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-60109629238276810432009-03-05T20:43:00.000+05:302009-03-05T20:43:00.000+05:30With much sadness I can only agree with all that y...With much sadness I can only agree with all that you said. I am the father of a 2 year old daughter. We live in the UK and we came to know in the 20th week that it is a girl. When I informed this to my father, his first reaction was "That is OK. Girls are just as good as boys". I said to him that I dont care about the gender of the baby. He just kept telling me the same thing as if he was trying to console me. Then I realized that he was actually consoling himself. My sister has a 3 year old daughter and so both his grandkids are girls. <BR/>Unfortunately I dont see the change in attitude happening any time soon.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-73033228002738539342009-02-03T05:27:00.000+05:302009-02-03T05:27:00.000+05:30unfortunately all too true for India... my family ...unfortunately all too true for India... my family is a little different though I think... My father grew up with four sisters, and always takes the side of the daughters in the family...<BR/><BR/>whether it's my sister, my wife or my bhabi - Baba's always taking their side... probably because others wouldnt.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-57395432183301963992009-01-18T01:21:00.000+05:302009-01-18T01:21:00.000+05:30Growing up, the concept of prejudice on the basis ...Growing up, the concept of prejudice on the basis of gender was completely alien to me.Then, one day when I was around 12 or so, I happened to overhear an aunt of mine telling my mum how happy my grandmother was when my brother was born. "It was due to God's kindness that a boy was born", in those exact terms. Needless to say I was shocked. While my dad doesn't give a damn, my mum does tend to favor my brother on small issues. Lately, however, she's better because I keep voicing my displeasure. However Grandma's favorite is still my brother.<BR/>This bias is deeply rooted in the Indian psyche and it will take time to erode it. However it's great that people like you are speaking up against such ridiculous attitudes. Personally I do feel that the right kind of education will help a lot to destroy this attitude. In the meantime I'd just like to say thank you for speaking up!<BR/><BR/>P.S.: Did you know that according to Manu, a girl should be one-third the age of the man at the time of marriage?!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-33481082930268095412009-01-04T12:37:00.000+05:302009-01-04T12:37:00.000+05:30I remember that episode way too well. remember th...I remember that episode way too well. remember the feeling of dread when the mother walks in to the temple with the baby, and then the joyous relief. It is actually true, that the attitude about male or female child has not co-relation with education at all. <BR/>A beautiful post.SDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02680026705334224458noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-74651955997187746052009-01-02T07:11:00.000+05:302009-01-02T07:11:00.000+05:30An overwhelming story for sure...and a good write-...An overwhelming story for sure...and a good write- up. Made me think...Glad to have overcome those times, right? Hard to believe that the prejudice still exists in a subtle way.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-77189291109197762852008-12-09T19:24:00.000+05:302008-12-09T19:24:00.000+05:30It is so sad.. But I do think that we in our gener...It is so sad.. But I do think that we in our generation can make a difference. I am NEVER going to call my child 'Paraya Dhan'. She is everything to me - and will be as far as I am alive. And she will be part of my family always - irrespective of whether or not she is married - just as I am part of my parent's families. I think if each one of us did our bit - things will have to change.. Joint Families might have made sense ages ago - but today - it does not make any sense.. Infact even for parents - I think they would be happier with their freedom. I have my parents as an example. They always insist that they want to be independant as far as possible - that way , they can lead a happy and cheerful life. My dad always says that the best thing is to be 'inter-dependant' knowing that we will always be there when need be - but not constantly in each other's faces - and I find that so sensibleSmithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06168565596774930645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-16613134465426944662008-12-09T16:36:00.000+05:302008-12-09T16:36:00.000+05:30I hope your friend stays firm. Yes we are the bigg...I hope your friend stays firm. <BR/>Yes we are the biggest hypocrites in the world. And we kill our baby girls because we refuse to change long held biased beliefs and traditions. I also think our JOINT FAMILY system is also responsible for this. Nobody wants daughters because they will be sent away as 'paraya dhan' while sons will stay back and care for their parents. We say we have 'sacrificed' for our children, and then make them pay back by forcing them to stay in a system (joint families) which suits us even if makes daughters quite valueless and sons very profitable.Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-87436708793329149792008-12-09T15:15:00.000+05:302008-12-09T15:15:00.000+05:30Hi IHM, I just read your post - It is so sad that ...Hi IHM, I just read your post - It is so sad that when a girl child is born people feel compelled to say ' better luck next time'! It is a very sad statement of our times. Thankfully for me, nobody in my immediate family voiced any such thought - everybody was happy enough that we had finally decided to have a baby :) But a lot of my friends have mentioned this. One of my friend was under a lot of pressure that she have a boy because her husband's brother had girls too - so she was their only hope! And she too happened to have a girl, so there was a lot of pressure from her in-laws to try again! Luckily for her , her husband is very sensible. <BR/>As Jyoti commented, 'Indian's are the most hypocritical lot... saving our animals and killing babies just cause they happen to be girls!' So true...and so sad..Smithahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06168565596774930645noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-77619866285432762102008-10-21T22:36:00.000+05:302008-10-21T22:36:00.000+05:30@Rohini Thanks for these wonderful, encouraging wo...@Rohini Thanks for these wonderful, encouraging words, ...this means so much to me :)Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-55749703994732747232008-10-21T22:30:00.000+05:302008-10-21T22:30:00.000+05:30@tikulicious Thank You :) How did I miss this beau...@tikulicious Thank You :) How did I miss this beautiful comment! A belated, welcome to my blog :)<BR/>Yes daughters are fun but they maro all your nice clothes when they grow up!Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-61105269972649919252008-10-21T16:24:00.000+05:302008-10-21T16:24:00.000+05:30I don't know why but I keep coming back to this po...I don't know why but I keep coming back to this post so many times and am moved in the same way. This is a masterpiece!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-58399860366134971832008-10-08T18:13:00.000+05:302008-10-08T18:13:00.000+05:30hi ,been reading your blogs thru Ritu . just joine...hi ,been reading your blogs thru Ritu . just joined wordpress .I loved your post ..I wish more mums n dads will write about the bliss of having a daughter ..during my second preg ..i was told I may hv a girl and my joy knew no bounds .started dreaming of our life together ,only to find a baby boy in my arms after delivery .. :).guess some moms have all the luck ..anyways three cheers for the girl child .keep touch .Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-48441393157988654282008-07-25T22:49:00.000+05:302008-07-25T22:49:00.000+05:30Pinku So true, animals are better parents than us!...Pinku So true, animals are better parents than us! I cried too when I was watching it. We are so primitive and tribal in our attitude towards our girl children....still an evolving civilization, (no matter how much we brag about our culture and traditions- because ours is a boy centric culture which has a tradition of poisoning/aborting girls and burning women.Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-47712290255066933002008-07-24T18:49:00.000+05:302008-07-24T18:49:00.000+05:30that brought tears of outrage.dont know what to sa...that brought tears of outrage.<BR/><BR/>dont know what to say...apart from the fact that we are perhaps worse then animals...even they dont kill their babies atleast not by discriminating between genders.<BR/><BR/>Perhaps being animals is better than the kind of humans we have become.Pinkuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06714914168230658950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-86458819483582367982008-07-05T04:18:00.000+05:302008-07-05T04:18:00.000+05:30Aarti Loved that serial. Wish they showed more lik...Aarti Loved that serial. Wish they showed more like that kind of serials today...<BR/>Our craze for boys is too deep rooted, a lot needs to change before it will be replaced by a love for happy, healthy babies....but we are changing I think. We are getting better at least socially.Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-54802766728625161612008-07-04T13:46:00.000+05:302008-07-04T13:46:00.000+05:30Wow.. i had my hands on my mouth wondering if that...Wow.. i had my hands on my mouth wondering if that Rajput woman did really kill her baby.. so relieved she dint.. Kudos to her~~~<BR/><BR/>My mom states this comment an aunt had made when i was born"M,Chamatha u had a girl baby"[M,good to see u had a girl baby]..<BR/><BR/>A friend's sis was pregnant 2nd time, she has a daughter... her MIL jotted down dates when they shd try to conceive so they will have a baby boy.. kept track of her DIL's periods, and gave her dates,etc.. how wierd is that... but her luck, my friend's sis did have a baby boy....Aartihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06286121748131889485noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-90108420945480914772008-06-06T00:58:00.000+05:302008-06-06T00:58:00.000+05:30Kislay I wish there were more Indian families like...Kislay I wish there were more Indian families like yours. I am just not able to see why this desperation for boys, in this time and day!??Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-9495513179944375582008-06-05T17:39:00.000+05:302008-06-05T17:39:00.000+05:30Great post . I can never experience what girls go ...Great post . I can never experience what girls go through as I am a man , and I was the first one in my joint family . When my sister was born , the nurse in charge woefully informed my mother of her arrival , but shut her up by saying that a girl was what she wanted , which was absolutely true. I thank God for giving me parents who have never favoured me over my sister , in fact , many a times I have felt the opposite . :) It is the worst possible hypocrisy of the Hindu society to desire male children when we have scores of Hindu Goddesses who are worshipped with no less veneration . The source of all power , Shakti , is a woman . It is so pitifully ignorant of these morons, they are upsetting the balance of nature .aShyCarnalKidhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06708483268962279495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-58175648363427557232008-04-04T12:23:00.000+05:302008-04-04T12:23:00.000+05:30laksh Thanks for leaving a comment:) I am glad you...laksh Thanks for leaving a comment:) I am glad you could relate to it.Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-13887408351786428352008-04-03T22:49:00.000+05:302008-04-03T22:49:00.000+05:30Came here from Roop's. Powerful post. Could relat...Came here from Roop's. Powerful post. Could relate to it sooooo much. Thanks!Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com