tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post3700208623538908391..comments2023-09-23T21:10:38.319+05:30Comments on The Life and Times of an Indian Home Maker: The Life And Times Of Another Indian Homemaker.Indian Home Makerhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-3257178148482830132008-09-19T15:56:00.000+05:302008-09-19T15:56:00.000+05:30@mama mia Yeah it is like robbing a beggar!@mama mia Yeah it is like robbing a beggar!Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-79332055859804562162008-09-19T15:53:00.000+05:302008-09-19T15:53:00.000+05:30@I Love Lucy - Welcome :)Alcohol seems to be causi...@I Love Lucy - Welcome :)Alcohol seems to be causing this rot...families are ruined. The effects are exactly like Drug addiction.<BR/><BR/>@Nimmy It's the attitude not money. They are the bread winners. The trouble is they believe that this is just the way life is. All around they face the same misery, and they have seen their mothers, sisters, friends all living the same life.<BR/><BR/>@Pinku I have seen this happen in Delhi. I don't think relocation or charity is the solution..but what is the solution?<BR/>Okay one thing I have seen working here in Maharashtra. They love to see their kids go to reasonably decent, ENGLISH MEDIUM schools, where they get milk, lunch, books, bags and uniform. If the relocated homes have schools and a medical clinic...like a small township, with a police station, and post office and a bus service to their place of work. That's like asking for the moon, I guess.<BR/><BR/><BR/>@D If only we could change this attitude, this total belief that they were only safe with a man by their side and unsafe without him. That marriage is forever. That they must confirm. How do widows fare? Do you know they are healthier and better off financially. Should do a post on this.<BR/><BR/>@my space The men are also victims, of alcohol addiction.<BR/><BR/>@phoenixritu Actually the men are also victims, it isn't as if they are any happier then the women:(<BR/><BR/>@Parry Terrible situation, sometimes can be saved by some show of strength..maybe by not bailing out her son next time. But will they even consider that?<BR/>And ... Thanks:)<BR/><BR/>@Dusty Fog Thanks:)<BR/>And welcome to my Blog! Hope to see you here again:)<BR/><BR/>@Monika I read it, it made me feel so helpless:(Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-83733680563722428972008-09-18T13:35:00.000+05:302008-09-18T13:35:00.000+05:30I am writing the post as i said... i am linking ur...I am writing the post as i said... i am linking ur post to mine.. hope that is fine :)Monikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02627040210376581730noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-88171957346814508652008-09-17T18:24:00.000+05:302008-09-17T18:24:00.000+05:30happened upon your space by chance. Two things. I ...happened upon your space by chance. Two things. I love the matter of fact way in which this piece has been penned.And the "About Me" - what can I say....10/10...: )Dusty Foghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14426575716966710861noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-8134953868704626132008-09-16T23:10:00.000+05:302008-09-16T23:10:00.000+05:30It reminds me of the maid who is working in my par...It reminds me of the maid who is working in my parental home. She often sees so many odds in her life. Her husband's premature death. her three young daughters, her fighting court cases and moreover her son being a petty criminal whom she always bail out! with her hard earned and saved money. Hats off to her! and to women like her.<BR/>And you remind me of my hindi school teacher who was as good in english as in hindi. :)PARRYhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08802457696970128138noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-26798445905682068082008-09-16T17:39:00.000+05:302008-09-16T17:39:00.000+05:30The imagery I get in my brain is that of men as pr...The imagery I get in my brain is that of men as predators and women as preys in this kind of set up. Its painful and depressingAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-22004186056320932662008-09-16T15:43:00.000+05:302008-09-16T15:43:00.000+05:30brilliant post yet again.the world works in ways w...brilliant post yet again.<BR/><BR/>the world works in ways we just cant seem to fathom. <BR/><BR/>and i am always amazed at people's ability to be totally self centred and not thinking twice before cheating a poor person of his /her hardearned money...<BR/><BR/>sigh...<BR/><BR/>abhaMama - Miahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06330103540647472728noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-36728893396511461572008-09-16T12:44:00.000+05:302008-09-16T12:44:00.000+05:30It is really depressing.Women are definitely stron...It is really depressing.<BR/>Women are definitely stronger than men..your post once again brings the bitter truth that men unfortunately have a upper hand in the relationship and thus exploit their women to the core..<BR/>As for these so called welfare parties -the only welfare they care about is their own!my spacehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15558028124092198778noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-30133880300278646412008-09-16T12:22:00.000+05:302008-09-16T12:22:00.000+05:30The condition of the poor in our country remains t...The condition of the poor in our country remains the same irrespective of which part of the country they are in. And the women suffer double discrimination: a). on account of their gender and b). on account of their economic weakness.<BR/><BR/>What's ironical however, is that, these women are the bread winners of their families. Most of them are married to unemployed men, who get drunk on whatever little they may earn and come hom eto beat up their wives. Yet, they are dependent on the social security that comes with having a husband around. What could be worse?Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04279878087585603554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-86366046365631821212008-09-16T11:43:00.000+05:302008-09-16T11:43:00.000+05:30hmmm...sets one thinking...such a vicious circle t...hmmm...sets one thinking...such a vicious circle that cant even decide which part needs to be mended first.<BR/><BR/>and the powers that be dont do anything. Its so sad. In delhi the slum dwellers get relocated from time to time. Instead of their shanties they get small but well built homes in the outskirts of the city. these guys propmtly sell those and come back and make more slums dwellings in the main city. Their view:<BR/>a) they cant find work close to where they have been relocated<BR/>b) having lived in the slum they find it difficult to stay in confined homes. also the money from the sale comes in handy.<BR/><BR/>What does one do?Pinkuhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06714914168230658950noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-8725057909730589402008-09-16T10:57:00.000+05:302008-09-16T10:57:00.000+05:30This is very depressing..Especially,"It’s unsafe f...This is very depressing..Especially,<BR/><BR/>"It’s unsafe for young maids to walk home late from work. One young mother was chased by a drunk when she had to take her child to the public toilet at 11 PM, ... One young man got inside a shed when a maid’s nine year old daughter was alone at 'home'..."<BR/><BR/>I also have a baby girl..and i know how those mothers would have felt..What a world around us..<BR/><BR/>IHM,i believe this is a moment for all of us to remind oursleves that life is easier to all of us who sit and blog,simply bcoz we have money..Once the money factor is gone,we too may have to live a life as described above,without any exxageration..So,i think it is very important on our part tp feel empathy and compassionate and help in some way,for we may not find anybody to help us otherwise,in case we are in such a situation..<BR/><BR/>Thanks for sharing..I relaize how unstable life is..<BR/><BR/>NimmyAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-30510530280213711752008-09-16T01:52:00.000+05:302008-09-16T01:52:00.000+05:30This seems to be the story of almost all women bel...This seems to be the story of almost all women belonging to that strata of society.The things that these women have to endure just to keep the sham of a marriage going, is unbelievable.And in almost all cases alcohol and infidelity seem to be the prime culprits.Sad really and very frustrating as well.<BR/>My first comment here though I read your blog quite often!I love Lucyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07657087361315399102noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-88450874149556846102008-09-16T00:09:00.000+05:302008-09-16T00:09:00.000+05:30Nice to see your your poetic comment..Thank u for ...Nice to see your your poetic comment..<BR/>Thank u for giving..your valuable moment..<BR/><BR/>Lets be Blogging Frndz...S.A.M.B.I.Thttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17008639790568225709noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-39457602432734846392008-09-15T22:04:00.000+05:302008-09-15T22:04:00.000+05:30@Corinne Welcome :) Now I am on your 'followers' l...@Corinne Welcome :) Now I am on your 'followers' list too :)Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-75582958041082945052008-09-15T21:43:00.000+05:302008-09-15T21:43:00.000+05:30@Mampi Yeah. She is tough:)@Monika,Ansh I also do ...@Mampi Yeah. She is tough:)<BR/><BR/>@Monika,Ansh I also do whatever little I can, you are right BIG changes are needed!<BR/><BR/>@Imp's Mom They think all husbands are like this, you just put up with them...now she lives in this fear that he might get into trouble here also.Indian Home Makerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10649133480442907582noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-8594015732936979612008-09-15T21:42:00.000+05:302008-09-15T21:42:00.000+05:30Hello - am enjoying reading your posts - the kind ...Hello - am enjoying reading your posts - the kind of stuff that really makes one think - thank you. I've been dropping by but keep getting disconnected when trying to comment. I've blogrolled you and become a 'follower'.<BR/>Keep up the great stuff.....<BR/><BR/>CCorinne Rodrigueshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00127426375705808776noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-783786376796765732008-09-15T19:54:00.000+05:302008-09-15T19:54:00.000+05:30Grit and never say die attitude...Amazing lady and...Grit and never say die attitude...Amazing lady and what got me was that though her husband does nothing but lie drunk she still paid for his bail or bribe in the village... <BR/><BR/>but the reality is what ours is a country with sorry state of affairs. The rich exploit the poor, the leaders of our country...the lesser said about them the better.Imp's Momhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05929632710630026681noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-47292113953383828552008-09-15T19:24:00.000+05:302008-09-15T19:24:00.000+05:30What a sad state of affairs. I feel their helpless...What a sad state of affairs. I feel their helplessness but all we can do is express concern!! How many of us can truly take up a cause..we are all busy people, busy with our work,families and our social lives. <BR/>I feel so "small" sometimes & try to do the "little" things in a country which needs "big" changes.Monikahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16145728591714940261noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6123689684509240568.post-47975898299490816202008-09-15T19:15:00.000+05:302008-09-15T19:15:00.000+05:30It is,unfortunately, the reality of many-a-woman. ...It is,unfortunately, the reality of many-a-woman. While the so-called social workers get awarded for the same fights that your maid has put up, this woman will go down unsung.<BR/>My salute to the spirit of this woman of grit. <BR/>The issue of illegal land apart, what emerged most brilliantly was her never-say-die attitude. Please convey my wishes to her. May her strength increase with every passing day.Mampihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02151567171626446275noreply@blogger.com